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Photograph of 'Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson' / front jacket photo ©Norman Seeff

Remembering Steve Jobs

5th October 2014 by James Bareham @happicamp

Taking Inspiration from a Life Well Lived

Today is the third anniversary of the death of Steve Jobs on October 5th, 2011. I remember hearing the news of his passing late in the evening of October 6th and immediately decided to go into my office at 5am the next morning to spend some quiet time writing down my thoughts on his life.

Steve’s death profoundly affected me, so much so that I remember feeling that it was rather strange to be that upset over the death of someone whom I had never met. Read more...

Lord 'Dickie' Attenborough in his screening room, Richmond, Surrey, England. Photo: ©James Bareham

Goodbye Dickie

25th August 2014 by James Bareham @happicamp

Lord Richard ‘Dickie’ Attenborough 1923-2014

Yesterday we received the sad news of the death of Richard ‘Dickie’ Attenborough.

‘Lord A’ was an institution, a consummate actor, director, and a thoroughly charming man.

Back in 2004, it was my pleasure to meet Dickie when I was commissioned to photograph him for the Sunday Times Culture magazine. The location for the shoot was the private screening room at his beautiful home in Richmond, West London. I am fairly sure that it was 2004 because I seem to remember him proudly telling me, “I’m 80 you know.”

I had just finished set up the lighting for the portrait shoot and was waiting for Dickie to arrive at the screening room (I’d got there early) when the phone rang. Read more...

You should have left the trees standing. Photo ©James Bareham

Why Send Me Junk Mail? It Makes Me Hate You

10th July 2014 by James Bareham @happicamp

Persecuted by Paper in the Digital Age

On Tuesday this week, it was 93 degrees with almost 80% humidity here in New York. In other words, summer.

I spent about an hour and a half of my afternoon visiting the US Post Office on 104th Street between Broadway and Amsterdam—an endeavour that involved trudging through the sticky summer air for nine blocks, waiting in line for my turn, collecting my package, and then riding home in the one carriage on the one train that didn’t have functioning air conditioning. Read more...

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The Best Thing That Ever Happened on Facebook

1st July 2014 by James Bareham @happicamp

A Rude Awakening

On Sunday, June 29th, Adam D. I. Kramer (data scientist at Facebook) posted an update regarding the furor around Facebook’s experiment to judge the effect of F.O.M.O (‘Fear of Missing Out’) on their users.

Kramer outlines the team’s reasoning behind the experiment:

We felt that it was important to investigate the common worry that seeing friends post positive content leads to people feeling negative or left out.

He goes on,

Regarding methodology, our research sought to investigate the above claim by very minimally deprioritising a small percentage of content in News Feed (based on whether there was an emotional word in the post) for a group of people (about 0.04% of users, or 1 in 2500) for a short period (one week, in early 2012). Read more...

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Breaking the Glass Ceiling

16th June 2014 by James Bareham @happicamp

Google Glass may never be fashionable, and that’s no bad thing.

The trouble with trying to get into the ‘cool club’ is that if you have to ask to join, you clearly don’t belong and you most likely won’t be let in under any circumstances.

As many of us may remember from our time at school or college, asking (when uninvited) to sit with the ‘Clueless’ crowd in the canteen would normally be met by at the very least mild disdain; more often loud derisive public humiliation; and occasionally threats of physical violence. Read more...

The Lucky 13. A proper hunter-gatherer tribe

No Man is an Island

3rd June 2014 by Graham Scott @grahamfellow

Bear Grylls’ The Island was an experiment in putting 13 men on a desert island with virtually no tools for a month. Could they find their inner hunter-gatherer, or would they find their inner drama kings?

What struck me is that Bear Grylls’ plan, to see if men still had the right stuff, worked so well. By and large, after a couple of weeks of getting their heads round it, the men showed that a disparate group of blokes could weld themselves into a functioning hunter-gatherer tribe. Read more...

With the blinds drawn you can't see the Alpacas peering in!

Stand Up to Work

17th April 2014 by Graham Scott @grahamfellow

Why a stand-up is not a joke but the new way to work at your workstation 

Most of us work sitting at a desk. Then we go home – sitting in the car or on the train – and sit some more. On average we sit for 9.3 hours a day – compared to lying down sleeping for 7.7 hours. This is bad for just about everything from heart muscles to back posture. I realised this about a year ago when I got major backache and decided to do something about it. Read more...

Cobblestones and carbon race frames don't mix. Photo: ©Tom Isitt

The Road to Hell

10th April 2014 by Graham Scott @grahamfellow

It isn’t paved with good intentions, it’s paved with mud and cobbles. Tom Isitt rode the second half of the Paris-Roubaix route and found out the hard way

It’s like hanging on to an out-of-control pneumatic road drill, while having your knackers kicked by a gang of skinheads, for six hours.

That, pretty much, is what riding the route of the Paris-Roubaix bicycle race is like.

Bernard Hinault, one of the all-time great racers, described the Paris-Roubaix as ‘a race for idiots’, or something to that effect. Read more...