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The Lucky 13. A proper hunter-gatherer tribe

No Man is an Island

Bear Grylls’ The Island was an experiment in putting 13 men on a desert island with virtually no tools for a month. Could they find their inner hunter-gatherer, or would they find their inner drama kings?

What struck me is that Bear Grylls’ plan, to see if men still had the right stuff, worked so well. By and large, after a couple of weeks of getting their heads round it, the men showed that a disparate group of blokes could weld themselves into a functioning hunter-gatherer tribe. Read more...

With the blinds drawn you can't see the Alpacas peering in!

Stand Up to Work

Why a stand-up is not a joke but the new way to work at your workstation 

Most of us work sitting at a desk. Then we go home – sitting in the car or on the train – and sit some more. On average we sit for 9.3 hours a day – compared to lying down sleeping for 7.7 hours. This is bad for just about everything from heart muscles to back posture. I realised this about a year ago when I got major backache and decided to do something about it. Read more...

Cobblestones and carbon race frames don't mix. Photo: ©Tom Isitt

The Road to Hell

It isn’t paved with good intentions, it’s paved with mud and cobbles. Tom Isitt rode the second half of the Paris-Roubaix route and found out the hard way

It’s like hanging on to an out-of-control pneumatic road drill, while having your knackers kicked by a gang of skinheads, for six hours.

That, pretty much, is what riding the route of the Paris-Roubaix bicycle race is like.

Bernard Hinault, one of the all-time great racers, described the Paris-Roubaix as ‘a race for idiots’, or something to that effect. Read more...

The wall is breached. The king is dead.

The Gap We Leave

Just before the winter storms came, they cut him down. He was maybe 90 years old, in pretty good health but you know what they’re like. They didn’t really understand him, didn’t see why he had to keep standing there looking a bit tatty. After all, what good was he actually doing? He was blocking the light.

In times past they’d have appreciated his quiet qualities, but that understanding is dying out. They don’t have the time to even stop and stare. Read more...

Teach Us to Sit Still

Teach Us To Sit Still

How a Sceptic Found Stillness Amid His Western Stress

This ought to be awful. Middle-aged man gets ill and sets out to discover how to cure himself after the medical profession fails him. On the way we learn rather a lot about his bowels. Then we get into the whole meditation, spiritual thing, while also taking in kayaking, sitting exams and inserting things up your penis.

Yet this is a brilliant book. I personally learned a lot, some of which I’ve actually put into practice in my own life, although this didn’t involve either kayaks or penis insertions. Read more...

Photo: SPT Photographe, Flickr, Creative Commons

Men of the West!

26th February 2014 by Graham Scott @FellowHQ

It’s time for us to hold our ground

‘Hold your ground, hold your ground! Sons of Gondor, of Rohan, my brothers! I see in your eyes the same fear that would take the heart of me.

‘A day may come when the courage of men fails, when we forsake our friends and break all bonds of fellowship, but it is not this day!

‘An hour of wolves and shattered shields, when the age of men comes crashing down. Read more...

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What do Tim Ferriss and Emperor Marcus Aurelius have in common? PLUS How to live like them for a day

13th February 2014 by Graham Scott @FellowHQ

Here’s the question: What does the uber-cool marketer Tim Ferriss have in common with the Roman Emperor, Marcus Aurelius? True, they both wrote books, Tim The Four Hour Work Week among others and Marcus Aurelius the Meditations. But that’s not it. They are or were both followers of the Stoic philosophy.

If you spend time online you’ll almost certainly have come across Tim or numerous mentions of him. And you’ll have seen Emperor Marcus Aurelius played by Richard Harris in Gladiator. Read more...

Who dares wins. Photo: ©Oli Tennent

The Risk Is The Reward

8th February 2014 by Graham Scott @FellowHQ

Nobody gets out of this alive. But here’s how you can improve your children’s chances – teach them about real risk.

I’d never heard of the risk/reward ratio when I used to ride motorbikes on the racetrack. I wasn’t a racer but a tester, working for a motorbike magazine testing new superbikes, tyres, whatever, sometimes on the road, sometimes on the track. You learnt fast or you crashed. Or, even worse, the other journalists would brand you as ‘slow’ – crashing was preferable. Read more...